Friendship: Proceed with Caution

Friend. We all have a friend or two who is phenomenal. Can’t say enough good about them. Love them to pieces. Then there is always a ‘friend’ whom we need to get rid of-  Drop them like a bad penny. 

I’m at that point in my life right now. I’ve written off a friend just recently and I don’t even think they will notice it. In fact give it a couple weeks to a month and they will probably email with a ‘hey how is it going?’, and I won’t be responding to that account any longer. It’s sad really what this friend has done to me. They’ve destroyed a good friendship, trust, companion and now will have no one. 

I know some people will say that I really am cruel for giving up so easily but I didn’t mention here that it’s been a 13 year battle with this person. Nor did I mention that everything was always for their benefit never mine. Let me give you an example, a family member of theirs passed in September and my father went into the hospital in October, I reached out to talk. I got nothing back. He was in the hospital for a couple months and when it came down to the time he was about to pass I really needed someone and I reached out again, this is what I got in return ‘I can’t talk about this right now’. Really? My father was about to pass and you can’t talk about it? So I reached out to another friend who was there, consistently on the phone because they understood what I was going through. Another example for you, this individual has asked me to review their CV or a scholarly paper now and then for anything that might be missing. Do you think in the credits I’d get a thank you? Nope. When I turn around and ask for something like advice or time to talk over things I get ‘I don’t have time really I’m busy’ or ‘What do I get out of it?’ So you see when I say that I am giving up on a friend, I am giving up on a friend who has used me.

So when I see the word friend I see the word caution. I trusted for a very long time and was destroyed and would hate for anyone else to go through that. Yes my lovely friends are great but I am still cautious because of one person who I have now cut free from my life. 

Daily Prompt: Friend

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7 thoughts on “Friendship: Proceed with Caution

  1. Your post is both sad and encouraging. I think we’ve all had a similar experience: The “friend” who gets in touch only when she wants something from you. Great post, heartfelt and easy to identify with.

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    1. If you dealt with this person for 13 years and trusted them as I have wouldn’t you have some negativity as well? Wouldn’t you be hurt? It’s called loss. Part of grieving you must understand that.

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